I-can't-harry was written to coach children who do not believe in their abilities or speak unkindly to themselves, learn to boost their self-confidence by quietening the mean things they say about themselves (shade-talk) and turning up the volume of their kind words (shine-talk), to face life with confidence and a can-do mindset.consider this book if you feel worried and frustrated that your child is hard on themselves and speaks negatively about themselves and their abilities. you may have noticed that your child tends to compare themselves to others or live in the 'shadow' of more outgoing friends. as a parent, you are worried that this lack of overall confidence in themselves will result in your child not reaching their full potential.when a child uses negative self-talk, you may hear them say, "i can't spell," "everyone can do this; i will never be able to!" "he is so amazing; why can't i do that?" "i hate my hair!". or they may go quiet, avoid situations or activities, and withdraw or stop trying things.harry was a boy who believed that he couldn't do much. the more he thought he couldn't, the more he said he couldn't, and the more he felt he couldn't. so that was what he became known as; 'i-can't-harry.' this book was written to coach children who speak negatively about themselves and believe that they can't learn that changing what they say to themselves means that they can do anything they dream of. wise for my size, i-cant' harry, is part of a more comprehensive coaching programme for parents and children. it is a powerful, empowering programme that teaches children essential life skills through activities, games, and stories. the wise for my size programme helps young people to develop soaring self-esteem, sand trong self-confidence, achieve their goals, manage mistakes, handle stress and anxiety, build resilience, and deal with peer pressure. the wise for my size library was created by lorna and jac, twin sisters who have over 40 years of experience working with children and their families. they share a passion for supporting all children to reach their fullest potential by harnessing their unique and special gifts. they have combined their knowledge, skills, and expertise to create this fantastic library of mindset books for parents to share with their children so that all children will be wise for their size.